If you have ever said the following lines in your life, know that you are arrogant. Let me know in the comments if this sounds familiar " I will do what I want, I do not care about what you think about me" or "I love the way I am, I don't need to change" If these lines sound familiar then you, my friend are self-obsessed, you may think it is self-love or you being cool, but it is not. You are just being an arrogant person, who is self-obsessed and refuses to improve him or herself.
Now, I know I sound a little harsh in my tone, but I feel it has become very important for people to know the difference between self-obsession and self-love. Changing yourself for the better is not a bad thing. Self-love means to be open to criticism, to be open to improvements, to be open to make yourself a better person than yesterday. It does not mean you brag about your flaws. Let me explain to you with the help of an illustration; let's say you are a bad listener, now a friend of yours comes to you and tells you, that you are a bad listener, and you reply by saying "I love the way I am and that is how God made me", then that means you don't love yourself, you are just obsessed with yourself, so obsessed you are ready to overlook an improvement that could make you a better person. If you keep posting your pics on social media and have posted 10-11 pics of your body in a day and writing "I love myself, I love my body, I am happy in my skin" you are self-obsessed, a person who actually loves his or her body does not constantly post pics for validation or show off, he or she just stays happy and lives his or her own life in content with the way God made him or her, and work on improving themself. The term self-love has become an easy way out for the lazy.
There is a very thin line between loving yourself and obsessing over yourself, learn the difference. Obsessing over anything is wrong, even over your own self. Loving your self means being in content with yourself without looking for validation on social media, it means to work on yourself when needed, it means to be open to criticism, it means not brag about your flaws, but to accept them and work on them.
I really hope I have helped you learn the difference. If you know someone who needs to learn the difference, please share it with them, and let me know your thoughts in the comment section below.
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